The “Dennis Situation” Part 2

In Part One, I shared my surprise and dismay at finding out that a college classmate for whom I had a lot of respect actually disliked me very much and was quite outspoken about it. I handled the situation very reactively, defensively, angrily, and in a way that was counter-productive to all concerned. How should…

The “Dennis Situation” Part 1

People often ask if I was always a Winning Without Intimidation -type of guy. Unfortunately, I wasn’t, and certainly regret some of the ways I handled (or mishandled) situations that proved detrimental and/or hurtful to everyone involved. If I may, I’ll share one of those with you now, as I see similar incidents happen so…

Define Your Terms – Avoid Misunderstandings

How often does an argument ensue and hurt feelings result from an exchange of well-intentioned, or even neutral (i.e., information-type) words when, with a little bit of thought, clarification and definition, such misunderstandings, unhappiness and even resentment could easily be avoided? Example: Pat tells you the party tonight begins at 7:30, “dressy-casual” and it won’t…

A Change of Scenery or A Change of Self

My good friend and business partner in my Endless Referrals Licensing/Coaching program, Paul Martinelli, recently posted one of his Daily Thoughts that read: “Very often, a change of self is needed more than a change of scene.” Yep – I well remember being there.  Not only bought that particular tee-shirt but wore it many times.…

Liberty The Cat

Okay, cat-lovers, please don’t get mad. I’m a dog-person. I love them; I adore them. And, they seem to feel the same way about me. Now, don’t get me wrong; I also love cats. I love all animals. But I seem to understand dogs and relate to them. Cats? Not so much. I’ve been feeding…

Breaking The Gossip Habit, Part Three

In Parts One and Two we explored the first four steps to overcoming the Gossip Habit. They include Awareness, Decision, Avoidance and Action. Now, let’s actually turn a potentially negative situation into something good. #5 Play the “Reverse Gossip” Game This is where, when someone says something negative about someone, you relate a good point…