It’s ALWAYS a Problem…Unless It Isn’t

It’s so natural to do, yet so very counterproductive. When presented with a negative question, or one intended to somehow put us the spot, we react defensively and dismiss it as though it’s not an issue at all. Which – of course – only tells that person and everyone observing that, indeed, it IS an issue. In Influence & Success Insights Video #22 titled, “It’s ALWAYS a Problem…Unless It Isn’t” Bob shares, through a fantastic example he witnessed several years ago, a much more effective, productive, and persuasive way to handle this type of situation.

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Nothing “Door-Matty” About It

Is placing the interests of others before your own a self-sacrificial act that – while it sounds nice and altruistic – will actually cause you more harm than good? Actually, as we discover in Influence & Success Insights Video #21 titled, “Nothing ‘Door-Matty’ About It” both parts of the above statement are the exact opposite of the truth. Not only is doing so not self-sacrificial, it actually turns out to be the best way to be very influential and immensely successful both personally and professionally.

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Saying No Respectfully and…Effectively, Part 2

Last post we looked at two well-known but – in my opinion – counterproductive ways people have been taught to say “no” to a request. Here in Influence & Success Insights Video #20 titled, “Saying No Respectfully and…Effectively, Part 2” you’ll discover my method of doing so that honors the other person and results in both of you feeling good the situation. Yes, they feel good about it even though they did not get their desired result.

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The Truth About Ego

The word “ego” typically brings with it a negative connotation; one of self-centered braggadocio or even narcissism. That’s just one aspect of it though. Really, like any other principle or universal law, ego, “the ‘I’ or self of any person” is neither good nor bad, it just…is. How it manifests is what makes it positive or negative. When in control of one’s own ego it can lead to very positive results.

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Let Go of Having to Be Right

While Influence itself has to do with moving people to our ideas or certain specific actions in the best interests of all concerned, it’s not always a straight shot from Point A to Point B. It’s also not going to happen every time and with every issue. As we explore in Influence & Success Insights Video #17 titled, “Let Go of Having to Be Right” not only is letting go of our attachment to such simply necessary for our own peace of mind, paradoxically, it’s also more likely to result in our being right more often…and more persuasively!

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