Lyndsey Fennelly, a former All-American basketball standout at Iowa State University, is now a coach/instructor with PGC Basketball. While in Orlando last week, she attended the Endless Referrals Live/Go-Givers Sell More event and, afterward, sent me the following:
“Bob, I’ve found so many positive experiences since reading The Go-Giver two years ago, but I’ve also found myself sleeping less, connecting with more people, and having more opportunities than I have the time for. As a 25 year old, I’m still learning to balance a healthy professional and personal life, but I just wanted to get your thoughts on how to create balance in life as ‘Go Giver’. I can imagine you are pulled in many directions and by many people and, in a great way, many people want your time and attention. I’m experiencing that on a smaller scale, and wanted to get your advice.”
Lyndsey, I’ll be the first to say I don’t have the complete answer to your excellent question. However, I have employed some concepts that have been helpful in this area.
One of which I find is very important. And, I believe you will find this to be necessary for you, as well because, as your business continues to grow, you will be sought out by more people for more things. You’ll find that more people ask you for things and want you to participate in their ventures and so forth. So, what I’ve had to learn to do is to…
Say no more often, to more people and to more opportunities.
Please understand, however, that saying “no” has nothing to do with being cold, unkind or unhelpful. It means that, because there are literally only so many hours in a day, but different areas in which we want to grow and be productive (financially, physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, socially, etc.) and help others, we have to pick and choose where and to whom we can give our time and percentages of our time.
Saying no to certain things will allow you to say yes to other things. And, that to which you say yes should be that which aligns with your values and what you desire to achieve in the various areas of your life.
The key (in my opinion) is in how you say no when you feel that is the proper decision.
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I wrote these because it’s difficult for some people (including me) to turn down requests from people; not just from friends but from practically anyone I feel means well. Thus, saying “no” must be accomplished in a way that allows you to do so effectively, with comfort and – just as importantly – while making the other person feel valued, and good about themselves.
Let us know how things work out. I’ve been following your work and am very proud of you.