In the past, we’ve discussed phrases that make it easier for people to be more receptive to our suggestions.
Leading with phrases such as, “It seems to me…”, “This is just my opinion…”, “I may be wrong about this…”, “I’m wondering if…” and others accomplishes two things:
Number 1: Opens Their Mind. Yes, it makes your opinion or suggestion more palatable to the other person. As you know, a person’s ego will often stand in the way of their being receptive to another’s idea. The above phrases act as softeners to the their ego. In other words, you are not saying, “I’m right and you are wrong.”
Instead, you are allowing for the definite possibility that you might not be correct. Quite opposite from causing the other person to doubt the truth of your statement, it will actually elicit his or her being a lot more open to it. Counter-intuitive? Yes. Effective? Absolutely!
Number 2: Opens Our Mind. Another benefit accomplished with these phrases is that it also makes us ask ourselves if we are, in fact, correct.This way, we keep ourselves from making more incorrect statements than we otherwise might, and we develop the reputation with others that, when we do speak up, we usually know what we are talking about.
Have you found this to be true for you, as well? And, are there other lead-in phrases you would suggest?