Default Setting (computer science): A particular setting or value for a variable that is assigned automatically by an operating system and remains in effect unless canceled or overridden by the operator: (Example: Susan changed the default for the font in the word processing program.)
No, I wouldn’t have known that myself. Had to look it up on Dictionary.com. 🙂
Your “default setting” is your natural response to a certain stimulus.
When an uncomfortable situation occurs, what is your default setting? Do you get uptight? Panicky? Do you get Angry? Nervous? Hyper? Do you yell? Act forceful? Do you act unconsciously? Or, do you remain calm? Are you in personal control? Do you rationally assess the situation? Do you slow down in order to make sure you’re taking everything into consideration?
Your default setting to pressure situations is directly proportional to your ability to problem-solve, to live in the solution and to lead (whether a team, business, charity, family, etc.).
Good news: As operator of your own system, you can override your natural default setting. And, you can help others do the same.
An excellent example of this is my friend, Lisa Wilber, a top Avon Consultant (#4 money-earner in the country) and owner of The Winner in You. She received a panicky phone call from one of her consultants who had a “catastrophic problem.” As indicated by the quotation marks, the problem wasn’t catastrophic at all. It was inconvenient; not catastrophic. The consultant’s default setting was on panic so when she called she was upset and agitated.
Fortunately, Lisa’s default setting is on calmness and serenity so she simply walked her through the situation and, together, they came up with a solution. That was that.
Is it always easy to handle what life throws at us? Of course not. However, generally speaking, any potential problems and challenges – whether with other people or with situations themselves – will be easier to deal with, figure out and move past successfully when approached calmly.
The question is, “How does one change their default setting from anxious, uptight and panicky to calm and serene?”
We’ll look at six simple steps in the next post.