It’s often said, “A person who is nice to their friends but not to the waiter is not a nice person.” After all, one test of a person’s character can be said to come from how they treat those who are not in a position to help them.
Yet, complimenting – or even simply being polite to – a person not usually complimented, shown respect, or even acknowledged by others, can also have a tremendous impact on how far that person will go out of their way to help you, should the need arise. While this is not the reason to be nice to them, it is often the result.
What a nice way to live life when you consistently go out of your way to compliment those people who serve others but are not usually treated with a great deal of respect. From the street-sweeper to the skycap, from the hotel doorman to, well, any service person – aside from tipping or a quick thank you, do you refer to them as sir or ma’am? Do you acknowledge them with kindness? Do you genuinely think of them as important and significant, and does it show?
Yes, it makes a definite difference to their self-esteem. It also reflects how far they’ll go out of their way to make sure you are happy. And you never know when that will come in handy.
Again, that isn’t why you do it. You do it because it’s the right way to be, the right thing to do, and because it aligns with your value system in terms of how you feel is the best way to treat others. However, don’t argue with the results. Being this type of person will also pay off in big dividends.
“But” one might wonder, “not every person I’m nice to will ever be in a position to help me.”
That’s correct, they won’t. However, you’ll be practicing the habit of kindness on a continual basic (assuming you are not already; and I’m sure you are) and, as T. Harv Eker says, “How you do anything is how you do everything.”
Have you found this to be true? Are there times you’ve extended yourself for someone even a bit more than usual because you just knew it would make their day that much more special, and it came back to you in a very practical and positive way?
In Part Two, we’ll look at an example we don’t see every day and, in actuality, will probably never happen to us…but it’s still a great example. 🙂