Both in business and personally you focus on providing lots of value to others. You enjoy doing so. It is part of your value system.
Because of this, your relationships in all aspects of your life are very positive. People seem to go out of their way to want to provide value to you.
So, let me ask you…
When you have an opportunity to receive (whether money, a compliment, love, friendship, lunch, etc.) do you feel yourself resisting it?
Suggestion: When this happens, move immediately into conscious awareness mode and ask yourself why you might be resisting.
Your answer will provide you with what you might need to be working on at this very moment.
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Just have read a small part of what Bob has to say but he is quite interesting and I did have to stop and ask myself why do I resist wanting to take the simplest thing from a person, be it a compliment or anything. May be that I am shy or I don’t deserve it. Maybe I feel it is not true. So many options, but I do not really know why but I do know it is ever so hard for me to take a compliment.
Good point Bob. I often times do. I’ve always attributed it to limited free time considerations but it’s probably a bit deeper than that. Think I’ll give Dr. Phil a call 🙂
I am learning how to receive more day by day. Being a giver myself I forget the importance of being able to receive graciously. I receive compliments easily however receiving tangibles has been difficult at times. I guess because i felt like i did not deserve to be given to as I have given to others. Thank you for this great reminder. “I am now thankful and receive all that is given to me.” Enjoy our day Sir.
Barbara: Thank you for sharing of yourself like that. And, for sharing your reminder through that very powerful sentence. Awesome!
Shari: Thank you for your kind feedback. Recognizing something in yourself that you can work on is a key to your growth in that regard. I congratulate you for taking an honest and sincere look. Now, begin to practice receptivity. And, in doing so, begin learning more about yourself and why you might have those worthiness issues. The chances are excellent that the root is below the surface of your consciousness. Be sure and study prosperity experts such as Randy Gage. http://www.RandyGage.com
Bob. This is a great post and a great question. In the past, I was very much a giver and was less receptive to receiving the many gifts that others would genuinely offer to me. Now that I am open to receiving value and the gifts that others offer, it has had a real impact on myself and others within my business. Being open to receiving is also about the ability to receive feedback. This is a great skill. Last year, one of my clients and great friend, Andrew Stewart provided me with some very candid feedback. This feedback l received enabled me to make changes to my service proposition and enhance the value that I provide. The law of receptivity is about the ability to receive both the gifts and value of others as well as constructive feedback.
Perfect timing for this post, Bob! I have been thinking about this A LOT and working on my capacity to receive. I was just talking about this last night with someone. Thank you for the reminder.
Catherine: Thank you. I’m so glad to know the post came at a good time. And, I love knowing that you’re working on this. Knowing you as I do, you provide a TON of value to MANY people. I want to see you allowing yourself to receive, as well! 🙂
Pete: Thank you for your great feedback and very insightful thoughts. Indeed, receptivity covers a wide variety of areas. I love everything you wrote. And, that’s a great story about Andrew who, indeed, is very wise!
I am just reading to catch up…I know this post may be a little late, but I felt the need to share. I read a book called 90 Minutes in Heaven about a pastor who died in a car accident for 90 minutes. During his recovery, he had a hard time accepting all the help being offered to him, be it friends stopping to keep him company or meals for his family. Then one person spoke up to him, reminding him that refusing help deprives the giver of the blessing. I’ve always been a pretty good giver, but receiving…that was hard. But after reading the admonition to this pastor reminded me that we all forget sometimes that the accepting of a gift is in itself a gift of a blessing. Allowing someone to deliver a meal to his family allows the giver an opportunity to prepare the meal while thinking of the receiver, perhaps lifting prayers as they pack the meal for delivery. To refuse a blessing denies a blessing. It’s helped me learn to receive with grace, not just to give.
Sheri: Thank you for post. Never too late to do so here. 🙂 And, I appreciate the wisdom in your comments and in the book you read. What a great lesson!
My Mother has this affliction. Something in the family, no doubt and maybe her being preadolescence during The Depression. I hope I don’t have too much of it. A therapist said that she can’t believe that there can be a happy ending for her. I see it reflected in her life. Beside being unable to ask for help or enjoy her life, she can’t give up control in a car. Get panicky with someone else driving. And she, herself drives terribly: so again psychology with it’s opposites! The receiving part is so bad that she has even “accidentally” broken nice gifts she was given. It is really sad from a daughter’s view but interesting to be able to see it in action for my own awareness.
Robin: Thank you for sharing with us. I’m sorry to hear that about your Mom. The fact that you are consciously aware of it is certainly a big step toward you being able to go a more positive route in this regard. Fortunately, you can still love your Mom and be encouraging and loving toward her. And, maybe even find another therapist who can work with her more effectively than the last one. I wish you and your Mom both all good things
Thank you, that’s very kind of you Bob Burg. I return to find that it’s weird that she took her own life on November 11, just 3 days after I posted this. Yes, we had a very close and loving relationship up until the last year. It’s just that after her first and second attempt at suicide, it’s a tough situation for both her and her kids as you may imagine. When will the other shoe drop for me. And for her, distancing herself from everything she once enjoyed. Yep, by that time I wasn’t surprised by the knock on the door. But beneath my sadness I knew that I did try to help in various ways and there really was no way to stop the inevitable. Thanks for listening.
Robin: I’m so very sorry to hear that. My heart breaks for you and your Family. Sending prayers of healing.