Jedi Knight, prosperity authority and critical thinker, Randy Gage tweeted:
“The next time your core beliefs are challenged — try being curious instead of furious.”
This one golden nugget can make an absolutely huge difference in your personal effectiveness.
As discussed in Adversaries into Allies, as human beings we are basically run by an operating system or “belief system” we don’t even realize we are run by. Yes, we are conscious of many of our beliefs…we’re just not conscious of being controlled by them. Or, of our emotional attachment to them.
That’s why it’s so easy to become defensive when someone says something that runs contrary to our beliefs.
But, is that other person wrong? Maybe they are. Are they right? Could be. Are they neither wrong nor right but just see things differently than you do? That’s also a possibility.
However, the only way we can be in a position to explore those possibilities is to reason them out with a sense of conscious-based logic rather than to react unconsciously and defensively.
If you want to be an Ultimate Influencer, a great leader, and the most effective human being possible, it’s imperative that you allow your core beliefs to be put to the test.
That doesn’t mean you should be so open-minded that your brains fall out. But curious enough to consider some alternate possibilities.
Take Randy Gage’s advice and exchange “furiosity” for curiosity.
Try it next time. If it feels a bit uncomfortable…you’re probably on the right track.
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As always, great post Bob.
And now I want to be referred to as a Jedi Knight. Something to add to the bucket list.
There is not better time than now to have put forth such simple yet powerful advice. In this day of extremes without middle ground, the idea of being open to others beliefs – more importantly challenging our own beliefs – could not be more appropriate.
Assessing and challenging our self – our personal brand – is one of the keys to remaining authentic and discovering new facets of our self. While it can be difficult the rewards outweigh the angst.
Lastly, I agree with not letting one’s brains fall out in the process. 🙂 Great post Bob.
Great post, Bob! As a therapist I am continually “challenging” my clients limiting beliefs because it has a huge impact on their behavior and emotions. Just identifying what they are is so helpful so we can either work with the belief or at least know that that is where their reaction came from.
Very true Bob!!!!!!! that is the POSITIVE angel too – and it’s most important to think positive. LOVE Randy Gage – He always delivers Gold Nuggets – LIKE YOU – Thank you – AND I believe if you are NOT ABLE to be curious in stead of furious – You’ve just stroken Gold anyway – finding Your Own problem, that usually make you react JUST LIKE THAT – and finding “it” you have started the road to confront it and repair it! Being furious that is 🙂
Hugs and LOVE
Lene
Bill: Thank you. I appreciate that; especially the branding aspect which, of course, as a branding authority, is your forte!
Terri: Thank you. Indeed, as a therapist, beliefs (especially the unconscious ones) must rear their heads on a continual basis. And, only after they are identified can they be effectively dealt with. Appreciate your thoughts!
Lene: Thank you for sharing your always-kind feedback. You are one of the most uplifting people I know. Regards to you and all my Danish buds!
Joel: Thank you for your kind feedback. And, I already consider you to be a Jedi Knight!
Bob- Thanks for sharing such a powerful reminder. Having an open mind, being curious and encouraging conversation makes life so much more valuable and fun to experience. So glad we connected in 2013 and looking forward to good things in 2014! 🙂
Mitch: Thank you. I agree with you. It makes life a lot more fun and valuable. And, likewise, so glad we connected! I appreciate ya’!
I Love being open to the various possibilities and perspectives because in that I can always learn something new… Great post Bob, thanks for the continued new views and lessons.
Carly: Very true. There’s always something new to learn, even if it is simply their personal viewpoint. Thank you for sharing that with us!
I have learned so much by questioning my beliefs. It is crucial to stay open and willing. Thanks for a great post.
Carmen: Thank YOU for your feedback and thoughts!
Great post, Bob. I’ve become more open the older I get. Each individual has their own background, experiences, and perceptions based on their history. Who am I to disagree? But perhaps if I listen, I will learn.
Dan: What a great way to look at it. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us!