Very grateful for all your feedback from our previous post where we looked at a gem of wisdom shared years ago that has made a significant difference in my life. Many of you learned that same lesson from the same man and shared great lessons from others that have benefited you.
The tale of Richard being mentored by Donald Shimoda was indeed compelling and filled with golden wisdom throughout. Re-reading the book two weeks ago for the first time and seeing all the highlights I’d made and notes I’d written brought back great memories.
What was THE gem, though? What did he write that had such a profound effect and made such a huge difference for me?
In the Epilogue, Richard is still grieving over the death (actually, murder) of his friend, Donald. Admitting he has lived the scene 1000 time over in his mind and hoping it would somehow change, he asked himself…
“What was I supposed to learn that day?”
WOW! Now, admittedly, this already fit my belief that there is a reason for everything that happens, even if I don’t understand (and perhaps never will understand) what that reason is. In other words, it wasn’t something I had to struggle in order to accept. Based on the premise that there is a reason for everything, then, logically, it follows there must be a lesson in it.
Richard’s question made me aware of this and inspired me to consciously ask myself, “What is the lesson? What am I supposed to learn from this?” after an uncomfortable event.
And, like Mr. Rohn’s advice in the previous post, this question has added hugely to my growth and effectiveness.
Oh, I still don’t always know the answer. In fact, I’m pretty sure most of the time I don’t, perhaps even when I think I do. But, the quest for understanding has been its own benefit. And, doesn’t wisdom begin when we begin to ask the right questions?
What do you think? Does this question make sense to you? Is asking it something you already do? And, if not, do you feel it would be helpful for you to form this habit?