In her note, she concluded with: “I can’t help it.”
I responded with the following:
Actually, you CAN help it. Here’s how…
- Become aware that this is a problem.
- Truly desire to change it.
- Take the appropriate action to make it happen.
- Build on your small successes and take pleasure with each step forward.
What I hoped to communicate to her was that much of life is really just a decision. Of course, some things we can’t control. However, as the saying goes, we can control how we respond.
The above four steps is the difference between happiness/peace of mind and it’s opposite.
Note: Unless the appropriate, corrective action is intuitive, part of step three is often to seek out the information on how to do it. This might include reading a book on the topic. Or, perhaps, having a coach, mentor or friend for accountability and support. Not necessary in my friend’s case, but often is.
Have you found the above steps to be true? If so, how have you utilized them in your life in order to make the shift from negative to positive?