Just one example is Jim Rohn’s (1930-2009) famous, “They just do” and his follow-up phrase, “it’s one of the mysteries of life.” This comes in very handy when upset over the negative actions of certain people. For example, you find out someone with whom you’ve done a business transaction lied to you. You are understandably very upset and even begin personalizing it.
You might even ask yourself, “why did he do that to me?” This typically leads to the big question…”why do people like him lie?”
Mr. Rohn’s answer was, “they just do.” “He’s a liar. Liars lie. He’s simply doing what liars do.” He would then add, “it’s one of the mysteries of life.” This also led me to embrace the saying, “It is what it is.”
Reframing a situation from something personal — or something you must analytically figure out — to “they just do” and “it’s one of the mysteries of life” can save a ton of heartache, self-doubt, and mental torture that will lead to nowhere productive.
Please don’t confuse this with not taking action to protect yourself from people who do bad things or, if/when appropriate, rectifying the situation after it’s happened. Not at all.
However, the major lesson I received from Mr. Rohn in this example is to not let certain mysteries of life drive me insane trying to find a reason for something that is beyond my comprehension.
Again, please don’t confuse that with not trying to understand people, Universal Laws and other vitally important concepts. An important part of life, personal growth, and wisdom is indeed trying to understand as much as possible. But, there’s a certain point where attempting to understand something we cannot reasonably expect to understand crosses over the line into driving ourselves bananas.
For those human beings such as I who — by our very nature — can drive ourselves crazy by doing exactly that (and, admittedly, used to do so), Mr. Rohn’s sage advice can be a huge difference-maker, both in terms of personal effectiveness and peace of mind.
That’s just one of the many lesson’s I’ve learned from very wise people that has made a significant difference for me. I’ll share some others in future posts.
Meanwhile, what are some of the wise lessons you’ve learned that have made that kind of difference for you?