I remember years ago being asked to be one of several people to contribute to an article intended to answer the question, “What is the Secret to Success?”
Putting aside my personal opinion that there is no one big, overreaching, magic bullet-type secret — but rather a set of proven principles — there was something else to consider.
You see, while I was honored to be asked, I also realized that — by the very nature of the question — there is an inherent problem. And that is, before one can legitimately answer the question and hopefully provide some helpful information, the very term, “Success” must first be defined.
If a regular reader of this blog you might be rolling your eyes right now, knowing I would say that. 🙂 If you’re new to our blog family, you might think I’m simply being “nitpicky.” I don’t think so. I believe that if it’s not defined then the very answer is going to be confusing. And, the confusion will become more and more exaggerated with each different answer.
Why? Because both the writers and the readers could be coming from very different perspectives.
You see, ten different people can each have their own definition of success. As a result, one person’s answer; based on their own personal belief system, will be misunderstood and taken out of context by the others, operating out of their personal belief systems.
This is why you’ll sometimes hear someone say, “Success isn’t everything” when what they really mean is, “Money isn’t everything.” (They have defined success as being money, and only money.)
One Well-Known Example
There’s a very famous saying along these lines attributed to Albert Einstein, which I have no doubt that he either never said, or it was taken out of context. The quote is, “Strive not to be a person of success but rather a person of value.” Unless Einstein saw “success” as only being money (and it’s doubtful he did) he would not have said this. If one is a person of success, they are indeed a person of value.
By the way, “Success” also happens to be one of those terms that is contextual in nature. In other words, it’s substance changes depending upon the situation.
For example, in a baseball game, one team wins and one team loses. The team that wins was “successful” in terms of the win. While the team that lost may have “successfully” improved it’s performance from last time, they were not successful in terms of the game’s result.
If you have a goal of losing 10 pounds within three months and accomplish that goal, you were — by the nature of the thing — “successful.” If you lost nine pounds you were not successful in reaching the entire goal. You were 90 percent successful.
Several Definitions of Success
The above examples defined “Success” as: “The accomplishment of a desired goal.” It also included various degrees and interpretations of success.
Now some other definitions, in different contexts from the above.
One of the first definitions of this term I’d ever heard was from the great Earl Nightingale on his audio program, Lead the Field. He defined Success as “The progressive realization of a worthwhile dream or goal.”
In his book, Wooden, co-written with Steve Jamison, John Wooden, the famous UCLA record-setting basketball coach defined Success as “Peace of mind that is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming.” In a blog post on this great man, we see that despite his enormous propensity to win basketball games…his focus was not on winning; his winning was the result of what he focused on.
My Dad cites Pirkei Avot (Ethics of the Fathers) from the Talmud, where it asks, “Who is Rich?” and then answers, “That person who rejoices in their lot?” Seems to me that anyone who rejoices in their lot is certainly successful. In this case, “rich” is different from “wealthy” though there is no reason why being one should preclude being the other.
Just A Few More
Christopher Morley wrote, “There is only one success — to be able to spend your life in your own way.”
In The Science of Getting Rich written in 1910, Wallace D. Wattles wrote, “The person who owns all he wants for the living of all the life he is capable of living is rich.”
And, in their book, The Law of Attraction Esther and Jerry Hicks opine that “The achievement of anything that you desire must be considered success . . . but, if you will let your standard of success be your achievement of joy, everything else will fall easily into place.”
I think each and every one of those definitions are terrific and add their own dimension to the concept of Success. I don’t believe any of them conflict, but rather complement.
My definition — and the one I’d like to use here — seems to most resemble Coach Wooden’s. I define success as “A feeling of peace of mind and genuine happiness based on having lived up to one’s potential.”
This could include an entire life of success or success with regards to a specific accomplishment. It could also apply to specific areas of life, such as — but not limited to — success of a financial, physical, spiritual, mental, emotional, or social/relational nature.
Based on my definition, it seems we could legitimately say that, “to the degree one lives up to their potential in the specific area they are targeting for success, that is the degree to which they are successful.”
Now that we have our definition (or, I should say, “a” definition since my definition need not be yours), let’s answer the original question, “What is the Secret to Success?” Or, if not one actual secret, what are some proven principles that can get us there?
Meanwhile, what is your definition of Success?