“As important as saying the right thing…
is saying the right thing to the right person.”
On one level, this is something we’ve discussed before — that not everyone can — or chooses — to say yes to your request. So, sometimes, no matter what you say or how “terrifically awesome” 🙂 you say it, it might be to the wrong person. So, now you find the right one.
But, several people were quick to correct me and add another very important element to what I wrote. And, that is…
“It also needs to be the right time.”
Yes, you can say the right thing, in the right way, to the absolutely right person. But, if the timing isn’t right, it dramatically decreases the odds of your attaining a satisfactory result. Timing might not be everything, but it sure is important. Hence the saying, “this is not the time or place.”
She is talking to someone and might not appreciate your jumping in with your own agenda.
He has just finished a difficult conversation. Facial expression indicates he is not in a helpful mood.
You are in the middle of a noisy room. This is typically not conducive to persuasion.
You only have a few minutes and this is something that might call for a longer discussion.
So, keep timing (and place) in mind. If the timing is not right and it’s something that can be discussed later, set a time to do so. If the conversation must take place now, first acknowledge to that person your understanding that the timing is not perfect. Assure her that if not for the critical aspect of the situation, you would not even think of bringing this up to her right now.
Now, utilizing the information we often discuss in this blog… go ahead and say the right thing to that right person. 🙂
Do you see any other part of this I might have missed?