So, on the phone recently and I hear the sound of the words, “The fact of the matter is” coming out of my mouth. I quickly realized three things…
1. It wasn’t necessarily a factual statement. It was just my opinion.
2. Even if what I said was correct, leading with those six words was most likely going to cause resistance in the listener rather than acceptance.
3. Most people (in my opinion only) who begin spouting their opinion by saying things such as, “The fact of the matter is,” typically follow those words with something that is incorrect.
So (again, the opinion thing), when desiring to communicate a point in such a way that it has the best chance of being embraced rather than rejected, we might want to begin with something less assertive than “The fact of the matter is” and instead say something like, “in my opinion.”
But, of course, that’s just … well, you know. 🙂