Last week, my awesome coauthor, John David Mann and I each received an email request from our great friend, Randy Stelter. You might remember Randy as the Athletic Director of Wheeler High School in Valparaiso, Indiana who – along with his Principal, Don Gandy – utilized The Go-Giver as a study course for graduating seniors.
He wrote: “I have a quick favor to ask both of you. Last night at a retirement party for three of our teachers, two of our graduation speakers asked me what the one thing was I wanted the seniors to remember about The Go-Giver. I immediately thought of 20 things I wanted them to remember. Then I thought about the movie City Slickers with Billy Crystal and the ‘one thing’ line.” 🙂 Randy then asked us each what we would suggest.
My response didn’t have anything to do with the book. Instead, here’s what I wrote:
Randy, thank you for asking. You know, I’ve been thinking on this one and – it’s always difficult to come up with a “one thing for someone to remember.” And, certainly, when it comes to high school seniors, if there’s going to be just one thing, you want it to be impactful.
Actually, the “just one thing” line from City Slickers is certainly a great one.
Another is the famous line from Return of the Jedi, where Yoda tells Luke, “do or do not. There is no try.”
Trying often means one is not really committed. Of course, there is a time and place for most everything (including just trying) but if someone “really” desires something, then that is not the place to try; only to do or do not.
Another “one thing” to remember is to “think.”
Thinking includes questioning. Question others and question yourself. Question your premises, as well as the premises of anyone who says something as though it is fact. Ask, why is that a fact? Who says — Who decreed it such? And, based on what logic or reasoning?”
Most of us make major decisions based on very limited information, and information that is based on or filtered through our particular belief systems, much of which we had no hand ourselves in forming. In other words, the process is often unconscious.
We must stay conscious of the fact that our unconscious often rules us. So, remember to think.
Another one – a saying I’ve heard for years but don’t know who to credit it to, might perhaps be the best one of all:
“Your purpose in life is to find your purpose in life.”
I think if someone keeps that in mind they can’t go wrong, providing they don’t get intimidated by it, and they realize it’s an ongoing process; that some people discover it early and some later and that it doesn’t so much matter when you discover it as much as staying conscious of the fact you’re in the process of discovering it. If you do that, life will be a great adventure.
The interesting thing to me, however, was that when I posted Randy’s question on my two Facebook pages I received a total of more than 60 responses that were downright brilliant and inspiring.
So, let me ask you this: If you had just one piece of advice; just one thing you would like to share with a bunch of excited, graduating high school seniors…what would it be?? Let us know. You might just end up being part of the Wheeler High School graduation ceremonies.