On the airport TV was a story featuring a “Top 10 list of Sayings That Annoy People.” I don’t recall what most of them were and found more than a few somewhat suspect in that they didn’t seem to be particularly worthy of annoying anyone. “Then again” I thought, “it is what it is.”
Oh, that’s right…that was one of them. Yes, apparently, people don’t like the saying, “it is what it is.” According to the report, it annoys them.
Actually, I didn’t know that saying was used enough to even be annoying; at least to as many people as it would take to make such a list. In fact, other than when I say it, I rarely even hear it said. However, I guess that doesn’t say much because I don’t watch a lot of mainstream television (Family Guy and The Simpsons aside – D’oh!) and, as a result, tend to be a bit out of the loop with things both very cool and very lame.
I’ve got to say that I think “It is what it is” is a terrific saying.
To me, it’s the ultimate in accepting that something, someone, a circumstance or a situation is…well, what it is, and not trying to deny it being so.
That doesn’t mean we can’t try and change it. If it’s worth changing and if there’s a chance of actually being able to do so, why not? And, if it isn’t, then we don’t try and change it and simply accept its “is-ness.”
Things are what they are and…well, “is what they is.”People are people. They often act in ways that are difficult to understand and in ways that are hurtful. Circumstances often put us in very uncomfortable situations. Events happen that can, at times, put a real wrench in our plans. Life itself can be very confusing and confounding. It is what it is.
Why is it that way? I don’t know. Perhaps it’s part of what Jim Rohn calls, “The mysteries of life.” They certainly can be, can’t they?
Sometimes, we can both affect and effect whatever “it” is. Other times we cannot. Part of wisdom is knowing the difference. Change what you can; accept what you cannot.
But, in making those decisions, when we realize that “it is what it is” we are in a much better position to operate out of strength and intellect; thus increasing the odds that we deal with it effectively and make the correct choice.
I just hope that wasn’t too annoying. 🙂