Gossip may be defined as any type of harmful or hurtful communication that is not absolutely necessary to share. Gossip can ruin lives, assassinate reputations, split families, alienate friends and destroy businesses. On the other hand, a gossip-free environment leads to peaceful lives, healthier relationships, and overall prosperity.
Yes, the gift of speech is a marvelous one, depending upon how it is used.
Would you like your words to soothe instead of sting? Heal instead of hurt? And build instead of burn? Following these ten pathways will help:
1. Speak No Evil. Say only positive statements. Let words of kindness be on your tongue.
This means to respond instead of react. Think first. And, even, to “Edit your speech before you speak.”
2. Hear No Evil. Refuse to listen to gossip, slander and other negative forms of speech.
If you’re on a diet, don’t bring the cake and cookies into your home. If you’re attempting to live gossip-free, try and keep away from conversations that may tempt you to listen or chime in. Hint: If avoiding the conversation is impossible, have another topic of “positive’ interest you can quickly bring up in order to change the subject.
3. Don’t Rationalize Destructive Speech. Excuses like “But it’s true” or “I’m only joking” just don’t cut it.
Gossip is gossip, anyway you look at it. Besides, the fact that it is true is what qualifies it as gossip. If it were not true, it would be libel or slander, depending upon the medium.
In the next article, we’ll look at several more ideas. Meanwhile, let me know what you think of these.
The above article is based on the book, GOSSIP: Ten Pathways to Eliminate It From Your Life and Transform Your Soul which I was privileged to coauthor with Lori Palatnik